Сompression method for treating premature ejaculation
In the treatment of premature ejaculation, doctors propose a specific method that W. Masters and W. Johnson called the “pressing technique” or “the squeezing technique”. Today, it is more commonly known as the W. Masters and W. Johnson “ejaculatory reflex” method of restoring, which usually consists of two stages.
This method includes approximately the same techniques as the stop-start technique just described. The main difference is expressed in the fact that instead of stopping (“stop”), a woman squeezes her husband’s penis. Specifically, she squeezes the penis with the middle, index and thumb just below the head (the thumb is located on the frenulum of the penis, and the index and middle fingers are above the coronary groove and below it on the opposite side of the penis) and squeezes it until the erection is partially weakens, after which it resumes stimulation.
Previously, the authors of the technique recommended firm, resolute pressing for about 4 with the pads of a woman’s fingers, so as not to injure the penis with the nails. Currently, W. Masters and W. Johnson offer “chaotic” compression, i.e., implemented not at the request of a man, but by chance, unpredictable. Such pressure is always produced from front to back and never from the sides, and then removed.
This method reduces the need for ejaculation, its use can even cause a partial loss of erection during this sexual intercourse. But you should not be afraid of these symptoms. On the contrary, this technique should be used in the early stages of sexual games and repeated every few minutes. A woman may, from 3 to 6 times before the introduction attempt, perform a “squeeze”, but after a member hits the vagina, she and her partner should not move. After that, she takes out the penis, repeats the reception and again puts it inside. This repetition (“compression” and introduction) lasts from 15 to 32 times. At some point chosen by the man himself, when he begins to feel control over ejaculation, you can try light and slow jolts.
At the second stage of treatment, the reception of “compression” implies not only squeezing in the area of the coronary groove, but also the compression of the root (base) of the penis. At the same time, the head of the penis is released, and intercourse may not be interrupted to re-compress, because the hands of a woman do not interfere with the insertion of the head. Unlike the first stage of head compression, at this stage not only a woman, but also a man can perform compression. Also lasting about 4 s. pressure is applied, then compression decreases. But it is important to still remember that the pressure should always be directed from front to back, and not from the sides of the penis.
During coitus (a woman in a pose from above) compression is also practiced. In this case, the woman removes the penis from the vagina and squeezes it to reduce erection. Then she conducts his stimulation until the erection is restored, followed by insertion into the vagina and coital movements.
Describing these techniques, well-known specialist in the field of medicine and psychology Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan names the following reactions that accompany this sex therapy:
1. Fatigue.
If the training lasts more than a few hours, the whole procedure becomes monotonous and tedious. For this reason, after about three weeks of training, spouses are advised to let everything go to chance, that is, to have sex for one week spontaneously, without stop-start procedures.
2. Frustration of the woman.
During the training period, a woman’s delight can be replaced by her disappointment. For this reason, and if this is desired by the woman, the couple is recommended to engage in love games, allowing her to achieve orgasm through clitoris stimulation. These classes should not distract a man from concentrating his attention on stop-start techniques or be conducted to the detriment of general therapy. He needs to get rid of the thoughts about his wife while he receives stimulation, otherwise the exercises may be unsuccessful. That is why the clitoris stimulation is performed after a man has experienced an orgasm.
This rule is maintained both in the extravaginal and in the coital phase of the “stop-start” procedure.
3. Resistance.
The two phases of therapeutic procedures, extravaginal and coital, can lead to the identification of different emotional responses from members of a married couple. Reactions of spouses can pose problems to the therapist that impede the progress of treatment. But at the same time, the content of patient responses provides a unique opportunity for therapeutic intervention, since the spouses’ reactions often reveal the deep-seated psychological conflicts of the couple or one of its members.
If the wife is hostile to her husband, she can react with anger to “using” herself as a “geisha” during the first phase of treatment (she stimulates his penis). On the contrary, when spouses, with participation and love, relate to each other, the wife receives immense satisfaction from her role as husband’s assistant; her husband’s success gives her immense pleasure. Manual stop-start exercises can sharpen deep feelings and mechanisms of protection against these feelings in the man himself. A man, whose personality is insecure and suspicious about his ability to bring love, often erects protective barriers that are manifested in excessive concern for his partner, obsessive attention to the satisfaction of her desires. Exercises “stop – start” eliminate these protective “structures”. A man is invited to assume the role of “recipient” of pleasure from his partner. Such changes in some partners very often lead to aggravation of anxiety states. Sometimes this condition is expressed by the fear of being rejected by his wife. Men with acute anxiety may experience paranoiac manifestations of protection.