What is male sexual excitability?
A good sexual partner is a sexual altruist, that is, a person who has certain positive personal qualities, is well versed in sexual techniques, in various ways of sexually satisfying a woman, and pays great attention to erotic foreplay.
Some men say that they would like to give the partner a pleasure, but are forced to abandon the prelude (stage of erotic caresses), because they can not caress a woman for a long time. Either during an extended prelude, they lose their erection, or they are so excited during caresses that they will ejaculate almost immediately after the introduction of the penis into the vagina.
Of course, both of these phenomena are undesirable, but just because of this you should not give up prelude. Let’s look at both problems one at a time, how significant they are and whether there is an opportunity to overcome them.
If a man has normal sexual excitability, and usually an erection occurs quickly, even if an erection has disappeared during the preparatory period, there is nothing to worry about. This can be regarded as a completely normal phenomenon.
The prelude should last at least 15-20 minutes, and if this woman is not enough to get well aroused, then even 30-50 minutes. For a woman, this is quite normal.
But for a man to maintain an erection throughout this period is really very difficult, and not at all necessary.
At this stage, the man does not need an erection at all, he will need it only at the very end of the prelude, when the time comes to switch from erotic caresses to sexual intercourse.
Therefore, if an erection in a man has disappeared, then you just don’t need to pay attention to it, it will not be difficult to restore it when needed, if the man has normal excitability.
In a prelude, a strong erection can even interfere, since the more a man is aroused, the more he wants to get sexual discharge as soon as possible. As you know, in a state of strong sexual arousal in a man, his ability to control his sexual behavior is reduced, and a partner who is embraced by a strong gadget can “crumple”, reduce the foreplay, so that he can quickly begin sexual intercourse.
For 30-50 minutes in a state of severe excitement with an erect penis, and even more so to caress a partner, a normal man simply can not.
Therefore, the loss of erection in the prelude is quite normal, to a certain extent, even a protective reaction of the body, protecting it from overexcitation.
But if at the beginning of a sexual encounter a man had a good erection, then it can then recover. Indeed, the arousal is not realized, the center of erection and ejaculation in the spinal cord is “in full readiness”, that is, in an excited state, there are no negative effects that inhibit the arousal. Therefore, an erection may reappear. Perhaps this will require additional stimulation from the partner, but this is not a problem if the partner has a harmonious relationship.
But for a woman to achieve normal sexual arousal, and therefore for the final result – an orgasm – a long prelude is essential. A good foreplay is the key to her future sexual satisfaction.
Without a prelude, most women are not able to get aroused well, which means they will not be able to survive an orgasm, since all phases of the sexual reaction cycle are interconnected and follow one from the other: sexual attraction – excitement – orgasm – refractory pause. If the previous phase drops out, then there will be no subsequent. That is, without attraction there is no arousal, and without arousal there is no orgasm.
But if in a man with normal excitability all these phases are very short and the excitement grows spontaneously, within a few minutes, then a woman needs much more time.
The first phase – sexual attraction – in a man occurs even before sexual rapprochement. The man wanted intimacy and all the other phases went on like an avalanche: if an attraction arose, then immediately followed by an arousal (that is, an erection of the penis), and if there is an erection, then he is already ready for sexual intercourse and is already able after 2- 3 minutes from the onset of penile friction in the vagina to survive an orgasm. That is, from the moment of attraction to orgasm, if there are no obstacles, if the partner is not opposed, a man can only take a few minutes. A man “lights up like a match” and “goes out” just as quickly. The entire sexual cycle: desire – erection – orgasm – refractory pause – takes a man a very short time.