Human sexuality

What is a Short Sex Act?

Scientists, researchers, doctors, studying the phenomenon of sexual intercourse, found a certain variability and even standardization of its manifestations. For example, the well-known figure from Alfred Kinsey’s research — two or three sexual acts per week — became the equivalent of the “norm” that everyone today is talking about. As before, storytellers, writers, poets taught us how to live correctly and beautifully, so now journalists introduced this stereotype of sexual behavior, which the satirists-comedians distorted with no less pleasure. Meanwhile, in the famous work of an American scientist, it was only about the average number of sexual acts of American citizens aged 20-30 years who took part in a sociological study of the sexual behavior of the forties of the last century! That in the writings

W. Masters and W. Johnson – followers of A. Kinsey – fifty-year-old men have sex once a week, preferring to be silent.

But you can not all one size fits! Other people from different countries have not been subjected to such large-scale studies of sexual life. Representatives of other countries and peoples approve their principles and lifestyle.

For example, in ancient China, a man at the age of 20 could have sex once every 4 days, a thirty year old one every 8 days, a forty year old once every 10 days, a fifty year old once every 20 days.

In my practice of sexological counseling, there are a lot of cases when men complain about too long – prolonged – sexual intercourse and the inability to end it with relaxation. Not less and those whose sexual intercourse does not have time to begin, and the finish is already rapidly approaching!

Find a consensus on the definition of the normal duration of sexual intercourse is simply impossible. Each pair, in each case, has its own time. You can talk about a relatively short time when sexual intercourse is long, but with most sexual intercourse this duration is not enough for a woman to receive sexual satisfaction. It is possible to correlate the time of a partner and a partner, but physiologically and statistically for women, this time is somewhat longer than for their partners. According to A. Fisher, the average duration of sexual intercourse, which is necessary for women to achieve orgasm, is 8 minutes. According to E. Shnabl, with an act duration of about 1 minute, only 27% of women reached orgasm. And according to A. Kinsey, S. Martin, P. Gebhard, 3/4 of the simplified men ejaculate after about 2-4 minutes.

So what? Satisfying most women is practically impossible? Most of them (61–66% of women) reached orgasm with a much longer act duration — about 12 minutes.

Not. With an act duration of 1 to 11 minutes, about 50% of women constantly experienced an orgasm, regardless of whether the act lasted 1–2 minutes or 8–11 minutes. This is explained by the fact that in some cases the man compensates for the short duration of sexual intercourse with a longer preparation – the so-called prelude. In others, a man lives with a woman who quickly reaches orgasm, adapts to her pace and does not seek to prolong sexual intercourse. Thirdly, the partners successively reach orgasm in turns, and this suits them perfectly.

All this suggests that the most important to determine the duration of sexual intercourse often should be considered only the time at which one of the partners has time to reach orgasm and discharge. For example, when a woman knows what it is, she has had an orgasm before, can and wants to get it now, and with this particular man. Or a man has sex not for the first time and represents the approximate time for his sexual intercourse, and then suddenly “hurried”, hurried.

So something is wrong. And such sexual intercourse can be called short. The desire to prolong sexual intercourse is quite natural, so, in most cases, intercourse is carried out for pleasure. And the desire of a man and a woman to enjoy this pleasure, voluntarily or unwittingly, for a reasonable time is considered normal. Thus, short sexual intercourse is the sexual intercourse that requires renewal due to the dissatisfaction of one of the partners.

 

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